The Bill of Assertive Rights
This is one version of the Bill of Assertive Rights, taken from the book When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J Smith. All of the rights listed are based around one key principle: ‘The right to be the final judge of yourself is the prime assertive right which allows no one to manipulate you’.
-
You have the right to judge your own behaviour, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
-
You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behaviour.
-
You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
-
You have the right to change your mind.
-
You have the right to make mistakes – and be responsible for them.
-
You have the right to say, ‘I don’t know’.
-
You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
-
You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
-
You have the right to say, ‘I don’t understand’.
-
You have the right to say, ‘I don’t care’.